1.27.2010

stranger than fiction

I've been toying with this theory for quite sometime now. I've studied economics; making theories ought to be as simple as stalking someone's profile on facebook. It mostly is, and even if I'm not planning to pick up Economics as a career option, I prefer giving the theory generators enough food and drinks for thought to keep them up and running.

As many would know, the fantasy realm created by George Lucas, DC, Marvel and others of their kin is more than an alternative reality for me. Streamed, tweaked and edited from their stories I believe all of us are made in groups of 3; us, our bizarro and a nemesis (A gut says you'll stop reading now... don't). We are who we are; quite easy to understand. Our bizarro is an exact opposite, south pole to our north pole, lame to our awesome (or vice versa)... On the other hand, a nemesis is an individual we hate and he/she reciprocates our feelings. Many would like to admit that they can't hold a grudge or per say accept hate for someone, but hatred is very humane and exists in everyone. There happens to be a thick line of difference between the two and I wish to elaborate. A bizarro necessarily need not be a foe; in fact our bizarro might just be an ally, a really close one... opposites seldom do attract. A nemesis is most definitely a rival. Though inspired out of jealousy, anger or may be too much respect for one's ego to digest, our hatred for him/her is parallel to our dark side. Not intending to imply in any sense that we are on the sweet side while our counterpart is on the sour. Such a situation may exist when good and evil don't exist and both beings face the same side of the coin, but unfortunately with a massive contradicting super-ego on either sides.

It may be unreasonably far fetched for many and may be even visibly flawed for others; the bizarro-nemesis theory is not too far from the existing if you think about it. Try giving your self an out of body experience and get into someone else's mind, whom you think might fit the two and I bet you'll agree that this belief is far from Utopia and thus does exist.

"Always try and put your self and the other person's shoes before taking a decision. Empathy is all that you need to be successful", Rajiv sir always said.
A mentor, an idol and my first boss, Rajiv Badlani passed away in December, succumbing to a lasting battle with cancer. Considered as one of the foremost entrepreneurs of the country, I can write a post for every instance that I went into his cabin and came out with something more than I already knew. He taught me empathy, a feeling quite unknown to me prior to working for him. I wanted to write for him, was scared that it won't be good enough... still am. This theory is for him, an attempt to thank him for all the sessions I had sitting in his cabin, for giving me my first chance to work, for introducing me to Jazz and for being the mentor I needed at that time. I was stuck at the gate between reality and imagination; he pushed me beyond this threshold along with my fears and apprehensions... and now imagination feels like-like.

I write only because you thought I could. Thank you Commander General, for everything. You're being missed.

4 comments:

Unknown said...

interesting theory.
and i like your new blog template :)

inmyeye said...

Writing is the best tribute you could ever give CG. He would have been very proud of you and would have loved to read what you write.

He taught me to write as well, so that is something we share in common (or should I say one more thing). And the one thing he would always say is to write what you feel and don't worry about the rest. This way you can never go wrong. He never did, I never did and you won't.

He saw your potential and just nudged, you took the bait and grew.

About empathy, no one I know understood the concept as well as CG. He translated it into everything he did including work and you have seen how well that turned out. If you have learnt this small gem he taught (which I know you have, even though you don't see it in yourself at times), you have more than most people. Don't lose A, it makes you who you are.

Both CG and I are very proud of you and hope you go many many places.

All the best!!!

PS: Sorry for the long comment, I tend to express myself very much like CG :-)

Arjun Kapoor said...

@ Mehak: Thanks :)

@ K Ma'am: Long comments are seldom needed; esp if its for a post that I've been skeptical of publishing. Thanks a lot :)

Sidd said...

Loved reading u...
I got the privilege 2 meet Mr. Badlani at my fist caferati read-meet n instantly got inspired. He truly was a larger than life personality!
Tribute and Peace to his soul...